You Are The Mistress of Your Menopause.

You are a confident, positive, passionate, sexy female.


You may not feel like it, but you really are that woman. Going through the menopause can leave you feeling bewildered, alone, confused and not knowing who you are. Everything that you knew about yourself changes.  The person you have grown to love… and at times not love as much, goes through an enormous transition: mentally, physically and even spiritually.


So what makes you go from a vibrant, sexy, confident woman to one who finds it hard to make decisions, cannot decide whether to laugh, cry or yell, and ends up feeling like a stranger.

Even worse your family, friends and co-workers begin to think there is something seriously wrong with you. The one word, the one thing that makes you act a little crazy is, pure and simply…. HORMONES. Or rather one in particular….. OESTROGEN!



You will once again be that woman and not the one you have become. Not the woman who can remember where she put her damn keys (normally in the fridge next to your glasses), but the sassy, sexy, super confident, delightful you.

Look at the Menopause as the metamorphosis from the recklessness of youth to  the wisdom and confidence that only age can bring.


 50’s is the rebirth of the beautiful woman in all her magnificent glory



Mistress of the Menopause is here to take you on that journey. To show you how the menopause can reinvigorate you, leaving you feeling rejuvenated and free.

Let’s begin the journey……

What is the menopause?

The menopause is a natural part of ageing. It’s when you wave goodbye to your periods and mourn or rejoice that you can no longer get pregnant.  There are 3 stages to the menopause:  

Peri-menopause – When oestrogen levels start to decline and your body begins to undergo changes ready for the next phase of your life.

Menopause – When you have not had a period for 12 months you are in “menopause”.

Post Menopause – When your periods have stopped completely and your symptoms are beginning to tail off. However, saying that many women still experience some of the symptoms they had when they were peri-menopause long into the menopause.

At what age does the menopause begin and when does it finish?

Peri-menopause starts at around 45 years of age, but can be earlier or later. The average age for a woman to reach menopause is 51.

The menopause can go on for many years. Some women are lucky and are out the other side within a couple of years. For others it can be five years plus. There is no set pattern or rule to the menopause and start and end times. You just have to go with the flow.

What are the symptoms?

It is thought that there are around 34 plus symptoms of the menopause. Mind you my experience when speaking to my GP’s is that there is only one: Hot flushes!!

The main symptoms that are commonly associated with the menopause are:

Hot Flushes

Weight Gain

Vaginal Dryness

For a full list of symptoms click here

I’ve heard women go on about hot flushes and mood swings, surely it can’t be that bad?

Oh dear what can I say. Believe what you are told and multiply that by 50. Not that bad?…. it can be horrendous.

You have no control over hot flushes. They hit you like a tidal wave…. mind you a tidal wave would cool the feeling of intense heat you get from a flush. They can be relentless and you can’t get away from them. Fans, ice on the back of your neck or standing with the freezer door open can cool you down. The best way to deal with those damn hot flushes is to wear layers rather than one big jumper. That way you can take a top layer off until the flush has past.

Next time you are in the supermarket have a wonder by the chiller cabinets and see how many women of a certain age are just standing looking at food stuff but not actually putting anything into their basket!

If you suffer from mood swings everyone around you suffers. You don’t know whether to laugh or cry. Smash up the house or paint it. One minute you are watching Emmerdale, next you are in floods of tears because someone has just posted a cute dog on FaceBook. You are living a rollercoaster life and all you want to do is for it to stop and get off.

The menopause is brutal, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

What can I do to prepare myself for the menopause?

Can I take it you are below the age of 45 and yet to experience your first flush?

Below is a list of things you can begin to incorporate into your lifestyle to put you in a better position to embrace the coming of menopausal age:

  1. Carry out an audit on your lifestyle – do you smoke, are you a heavy drinker and eat lots of processed foods. If you answered yes, begin considering either cutting back or cutting out on these three areas. You need to be as healthy as you possibly can to support your body through the change. Hell it needs all the support it can get, trust me.
  2. Eat a healthy balanced diet – your body will undergo enormous changes as it goes through the menopause. There is a lot of stress put on your body and you need to ensure that you support the adrenal glands (responsible for the stress hormone cortisol) to help it do its job.
  3. Exercise – no need to run a marathon, just take in exercise at least three times a week. This can be walking, swimming, yoga, weights, whatever you enjoy. Exercising is good for reducing stress.
  4. Meditation – another way to lower stress levels and help the body maintain a more relaxed state. If you are unable to meditate by yourself then find a guided meditation which will help you to relax. There are many on YouTube, Patreon and other such sites.

Is HRT the only way I can get through the menopause?

Before reaching for HRT be mindful that it does not get you through the menopause just delays it. Once you come off HRT there is a chance that you will begin to have menopause symptoms. So the question to yourself is: do I want to get this over with now or delay it for five plus years?

If you are one of the growing number of women who do not want to put chemicals into their body, then look at taking a more holistic approach. This is the approach Mistress of the Menopause advocates as it is kinder to your body and takes you on an amazing journey of falling in love with your body, mind and spirit.

An holistic approach to the menopause looks at nutrition as a source of supporting the body, helping with menopausal weight gain and getting you feeling good from inside out. You also look at positivity, exercise, gratitude, supplements and living a truthful life to help impact the effect the menopause has on your body, mind and life.

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